Divorce: The Atomic Bomb

  Once again, God never ceases to amaze me when it comes to creative ways to convey a message. He pulls from any and everything. This subject is very dear to me because my parents went through it as well as I did in my first attempt. But thank God for grace and growth. I am happy to say that my wife and I are sincerely happily married. A couple of years of ago I couldn't have said that, just my honesty. I'm pretty sure she feels the same way. I love you honey! But today is a new day and can be for anyone thinking about it, going through it or wondering how to keep that good thing going. Today's subject is "divorce". I would like to extend a word of encouragement and tips on how you can get out of what seems to be a marital rut. No, I am not talking about you getting out of your marriage, but that or those existing enablers that have for years encouraged the very notion of it. Not to mention the extended destruction that it brings. Before I start I credit God (as I do all good and perfect things) for this awesome revelation on marriage. Second, I'd like to thank the late great Albert Einstein even though his discovery was and has been devastating. What and why? Trust me it gets better.

  A year ago I was watching a special on Albert Einstein. I think it was the history channel. I love it! It was a documentary that detailed his life and accomplishments. What stuck out to me was the learning of how the atomic bomb works. If you were any kind of science nut in school you know that an atomic bomb takes place when there is a splitting of an atom. When the special made reference to it I didn't hear atom. Divinely, I heard Adam. I instantly thought about the scriptures in Matthew 19:4-8 (NLT) that states:

"Haven't you read the scriptures?" Jesus replied. "They record that from the beginning 'God made them male and female.' And he said, 'This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. 'Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together. Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away?" they asked. Jesus replied, "Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended.


  There is so much to be talked about in this chapter alone but I want to focus on these few passages. There are several things that I want to elaborate on. First of all, Jesus makes reference to the scriptures and what God made and ordained from the beginning. It is very important that we understand that we are no longer under the law but under God and the leadership of his Holy Spirit. Today laws are changed and enforced to benefit and govern man. But God doesn't change and it is when we attempt to change and adjust in search of loop holes in what God has created that causes turmoil. Jesus continues by saying (and I'm paraphrasing) that when a man and women unite in marriage they are no longer two, but one. So, LET NO MAN OR WOMAN or ANY ONE for that matter put asunder, separate, or split apart what God has joined together.

TIP:
  I am a firm believer in God's match making abilities. I have both made a choice on my own without God's approval and seen God create an opportunity for "His" desired choice for me, yet in all he still left me with the choice to make. God does indeed put people together if we let him. But once the choice is made with or without God's approval he honors it and supernaturally joins the two there by making ONE. So whether or not you felt you made a rash decision God honored it. And with his help it can still flourish and be a great marriage.

  After Jesus so graciously over turns the Law of Moses in respect to God's intent we're left with only one thing. Other than for the case of adultery two people (male and female) who have been joined together in marriage are now ONE and God's original intentions are for them to stay together.

Sidebar: Marriage was never meant to feel like a trap. I admit I've felt this way before. I found out that reason those feelings existed was because in some way I felt the same way about God. I not finding enjoyment in following Christ transpired in my marriage and once my relationship with God was on point, my marriage changed. I am working on a blog called "The Death of Religion and The Birth of Relationship". In that blog I'll talk more about our relationship with God. Stay tuned!

  So what exactly did I get from this Albert Einstein documentary? In contrast to the bible Adam was the first man and the first married. In our culture it is honorable that the woman takes on the name of her husband. The bible never speaks of having last names at least to my knowledge so I would have to say that Adam and Eve became the Adams. In Genesis we have the first male and female becoming one in flesh in God's eyes. So what did Albert discover when you split atoms or Adams, an explosion. Imagine your household being the very lab where splitting atoms (Adams) is tested. The explosion would blow up your whole house and maybe even affect your neighbors. When Albert and his colleagues discovered this there next quest would be how to sustain it. The huge explosions that we heard about in our history and fear for in our future are the very thing they created, a weapon of mass destruction. They found out that when several atoms are grouped together the splitting of one (atom or Adams) can cause an explosion big enough set off a chain reaction of splitting atoms there by sustaining the blow and destroying not just one home but homes, cities, states, countries etc. The goal of this weapon was to totally wipe your enemy off the face of the earth.

  To put this in biblical church oriented terms. The goal of our enemy Satan is to wipe out the believers of Christ and not just us, but also every establishment and institution of God off the face of the earth. Do not be surprised that he is starting with the home, starting with marriage. He (meaning Satan) has been doing this since man (male and female) existed. Today I see more and more believers getting divorced. Not solely, but in groups. Usually friends of friends, church members etc. there by validating this atomic chain reaction. Where is our accountability? Where are the mentors of victorious house holds? I can just hear God saying "I can just find one". Just as small as we've viewed and recklessly treated with disrespect the size of an atom under a microscope the same has been shown in reverence to marriage. And just like we've irresponsibly tried to gain the upper hand on our neighbors in war we're destroying ourselves.

  The Apostle Paul said it best in Romans 2:17-24 (NLT) (includes my commentary):
  You who call yourselves Jews (or believers by faith) are relying on God's law, and you boast about your special relationship with him (based upon your good deeds). You know what he wants; you know what is right because you have been taught law (and not the love and grace of God). You are convinced that you are a guide for the blind and a light for the people who are lost in darkness. You think you can instruct the ignorant and teach children the ways of God. For you are certain that God's law gives you complete knowledge and truth. 
 
  Well then, if you teach others, why don't you teach yourself? You tell others not to steal, but do you steal? You say it is wrong to commit adultery, but do you commit adultery? You condemn idolatry, but do you use items stolen from pagan temples? You are so proud of knowing the law, but you dishonor God by breaking it. No wonder the scriptures say, "The Gentiles blaspheme the name of God because of you."

  Wow! Just think how we've been toward other people outside of the faith. Acting as if we've got it all together and yet secretly our homes are falling into pieces. This passage alone is enough to bring us to place of humility. We are often upset and offended at the very sight of same sex marriages. But ask yourself, what have we showed people that choose another path as proof that God's way is better? Our witness on God's behalf to the world has to and must go beyond our daily recital of the scriptures. We have to live it, even for the purpose of proving to ourselves that God's way is better. Our (meaning the Christian community) marriage versus divorce statistics scream something much different from what we so confidently confess. They testify for us and this is what we've showed the world. I am not at all surprised at the blasphemy. I am not at all surprised at the growing rate of abomination in America. We can no longer blame anyone else but ourselves for the blasphemy that now exist. We don't even follow Christ, so why should they?

  My next question would be, what about our children? What do they get from this atomic bomb called divorce? I heard someone say that there exists a chemical warfare placed in bombs that if taking in would cause future babies to be born with severe birth defects. I'm talking about twelve toes instead of ten, one arm instead of two. What do you think our children take in from having seen Mommy and Daddy fuss and fight to the point of divorce? How do you think it will affect their future? What will they inevitably find as a birth defect in their marriage? I heard a Pastor say the other day that the best way to impact today's culture is through Christ inspired marriages. I have to say that I totally agree. I really sense an urgency for us to seek God like never before concerning marriage. Our Father who created marriage desires to see Christ inspired marriages. How can anyone dare disrespect our God if our lives and the fruit we bare confirm our confession of faith. It is too easy to find people who know the bible through and through. It is too easy to find great rappers, singers, preachers, prophets, evangelist etc, etc. Where are the great marriages?

  Ladies and Gentlemen, the truth is we've lost focus of God's agenda and have no idea what his priorities are. We have become a group of Adams splitting amongst each other exploding into generational divorces. Silently we hide the problems at home to protect a facade that only digs a deeper a hole of a problem. We live secretly separate cunningly coveting our each others spouses and emotionally feeding their needs instead of taking care of our own. There by splitting more Adams only to marry each other and find that the problems still exist. Ours lives have become reality shows yet in all still cultivating our facades. When is your marriage going to become important? Where does it line up on your list of what God sees as a priority? When are you going to place it where it needs to be?

I Timothy 5:8 (KJV)
But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel.

  If you did not know, infidel means unbeliever and denying the faith means both denying Christ Jesus and denying faith to work for you. I believe with all my heart that God saw fit to inspire Timothy to write this to show us how important it was that we take care of our homes. Not just financially, but spiritually and emotionally. This scripture alone is almost enough to validate our households as a top priority on God's list. I admit it, in the past I have been at fault at putting my churches needs before my own house hold. This should never be done unless God directly tells you otherwise. Then and only then you can have the faith that on the other side of your obedience is provision. God told me that the Church was not God himself but that it was a body of believers that I should always encourage and be encouraged by and that I should always (especially members) look to support in anyway I could but not at the expense of my family. Negligence is not faith. A married man and woman should not be at Church "more" than they are at home. That is what single believers are for.

The Apostle Paul elaborates my point in I Corinthians 7:32-35 (NLT)
I want you to be free from concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with few distractions as possible.

  Married people, if you are having issues at home. Go Home!!! Take a break from serving. Your responsibility is your spouse. Stop using your serving at the church as a coping mechanism. Trust me, I did it and it only got worst. If the problems at home are not resolved when you leave the house, they will still exist when you get home.

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  Seek God on Marriage!!!! Read Books on it!!!! Study and talk about it together, OFTEN!!! Make sacrifices for your marriage!! You have to be willing to lose yourself to save it!! Selfishness only begets divorce. You have to be willing to put your career on hold for it!!! It's not just about you!!! Marriage is observed by the community you are in be it the Church you attend or where you live. Divorce affects in some way all the people you are connected to. The people you are connected to affect your marriage and your decision making. Your marriage and household falls right under your relationship with God!!! Desire a great relationship with God and desire a great marriage!!!!!

  A year ago I made up my mind to get victory in my marriage. I am determined to show my children a marriage that they can look at and follow as a model. I have vowed to follow the leadership of the Holy Spirit and intensely study what the bible says about it. Since then I have lost friends but have gained some divine friendships. God separated me from people that would stroke my ego. He replaced them with people who would hold me accountable and not jump into a sinking ship with me, even if their own marriage was on the rocks. We need these types of people in our lives. These types of friendships and relationships are vital to the prevention of a chain reaction of divorces. It is important that we understand that divorce like an atomic bomb destined to affect areas beyond your home. It either encourages or discourages people from the inside looking out and from the outside looking in. Just like the words of wisdom given from Kind David in Psalms 4:23 (KJV) - "Keep (guard) thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." I suggest you keep your marriage likewise.

Testimony:
The other day I was at the barbershop with my son to get his haircut. While after about 15 minutes of waiting my wife and daughters walked in. It was the first time they waited with us. This had always been something I disagreed with being that the babershops can seem like a house full of hounds' eye candying your wife. But I didn't say anything about it. Almost instantly I could see people (the barbers and customers alike) starring at us as my little girls played, exchanging my lap for my wife's and back and forth. That next Friday I came to the barbershop to get my hair. As soon as I sat in the chair my barber asked me. Was that your wife and kids with you the other day? I said yes. He complimented my wife and then asked did we go to church. I said thank you and yes we do attend church. I then asked him why did he ask if we went to church. He said because there was a glow on us and he could tell it from a far. While getting my hair cut, for the first time since coming there he began to open up to me about his marital problems. What I want to share is that because of the condition of my marriage and household there exist in the spiritual seen in the natural a glow as he put it. I believe my barber saw something that he wanted in his marriage. And because of it he felt comfortable enough to open up to me about it. That day I was fully convinced that God will make it evident even in the eyes of an unbeliever that He is with us, even through marriage.

God Bless!
~Mouth